The D word - Divorce
Published: April 23, 2009
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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage and divorce. I have several friends who are divorced and family members as well. I also have some who are existing in completely terrible marriages…where there is abuse, or deep incompatibility, or other issues.
One of my friends who are divorced left because her husband was abusive in many ways. Another friend of mine signed the papers because his wife had, for lack of a better term, gone completely crazy and it was not, and could not be a healthy relationship because she wasn’t willing to get help.
I never thought I would be one to think divorce was okay, but in some of these cases, I really think it could be. Now, please, save me the hate mail…I realize that some people’s stance on this issue is very hard core “DIVORCE IS NEVER EVER EVER RIGHT.” I used to be one of those people…but now, I kind of wonder if it is just as black and white as we have made it to be.
For instance, why is divorce any worse than a married couple living a complete lie? Or staying together “just for the kids” when they have loads of resentment they are unwilling to work through? Or knowing one or the other is having an affair and letting it continue? Why is divorce any worse than a husband and wife being more like roommates (if they are even that?)
Just some things that have been in my head lately…I don’t claim to have any answers or even that what I’m thinking is any kind of right. Any thoughts?
Anne Jackson serves on staff at Cross Point Church in Nashville, Tennessee. Her articles have been published in a variety of print and online magazines, and her blog, Flowerdust.net, is ranked as one of the top blogs in Christian Leadership with hundreds of thousands of pageviews a month. She is an advocate for Compassion International, a down-to-earth communicator, and an all around dreamer. Anne has an unwavering passion to see the Church grow, thrive, and fulfill its purpose. Her book Mad Church Disease (Zondervan), February 2009.
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